Where Are The Answers?

Sometimes people believe they don’t have what it takes on their own to be happy. The emergence of coaching and the extensive and growing self-help industry supports this belief. Look at social media and explore self-help guru websites and you will find messages like: “Buy my book! Take my program! Work with me, and your life will magically get better! Do this and you will be happy!” The implication is that without external forces, it’s impossible to be happy. This …

I Fired My Personality

This April, after more than ten years in business, I hit the proverbial wall. I was weary of the tasks that needed doing to maintain the level of success I’d enjoyed in the past. When I realized I wasn’t excited about continuing my practice as a coach, I knew it was time for slowing down. If I’m not having fun in my business, something is seriously wrong. This realization was not exactly new. I can pinpoint the beginning of the …

Who Are Your Teachers?

In my lifetime, I’ve had many teachers. Like you, I didn’t get to be who I am without the guidance of others. My parents, siblings and family members shaped me in my first year of life as I learned how to do all the things babies do. It was the beginning of a lifetime of modeling, emulating, and copying. During my childhood, I became what others – parents, teachers, family, friends – expected me to be. If I met their …

Entrepreneurs & Ideas

I’m an idea fanatic. Ideas come fast and fiercely; so much so there’s no possibility for executing them all. It’s also true that some of my ideas are crap. Lucky for me, I’ve learned to be discerning, and I’ve made a shit-ton of mistakes. I’ve spent years following an ever-changing path dictated primarily by what interests me, ever curious about what could be just around the next corner. For me, new ideas are like oxygen. Amidst the perpetual change involved …

Facing Rejection As An Entrepreneur

In our Entrepreneur Gold Cafe today, heart-centered entrepreneurs got real with the feelings of rejection. As the facilitator, I asked them direct questions about how they successfully manage their relationship with it, and what they could learn from it. We also learned how to feel great about our ‘elevator speech’ (hint: there are no rules) and took a look at the value of marketing metrics. But…rejection! Everyone has felt the emotional pull of rejection at one time or another. Entrepreneurs …

Seeking Other Perspectives

In the Entrepreneur Gold Cafe, participants often come away with something unexpected. They get the support they expect, of course. Friendships deepen every time someone speaks to an issue they’re experiencing. Whether it’s something they’re afraid of, or a problem they haven’t been able to solve on their own –they continue to come to the Cafe because it’s comforting to know they aren’t the only one to experience these things. This week, one member (of course her real name is …

How To Love The Un-lovable

Lately, I’ve been noticing how difficult it is to walk my talk, by learning how to love the unlovable. And thinking, isn’t that the way? Life is good at showing me what I’m committed to doing and being, by putting obstacles in my path that test my mettle. As a self-proclaimed love-activist, my purpose is to love fiercely. I’m meant to love even those that aren’t easy to love, and not just sometimes but at all times. I don’t take …

What Question Are You Asking Yourself?

For me, life goes in the direction of my questions. I’ve mentioned this before, and I turned toward it again today when I posted this on Facebook: “What question are you asking yourself today?” As always, I wanted to know the answer to my question. (You know, sometimes people DON’T want to know the answer to their question because the there may be an action they don’t want to take. Just saying). The responses were interesting to me. In my …

Ideas for Action In A Changing New World

It’s easy to think there’s nothing to do but worry about the ways of the world today. Hopelessness and despair are fast becoming our go-to emotions, especially if the first thing we do upon awakening is to fill our minds with someone else’s idea of what’s important, via social media. Every day, I seek discernment. In a world of alternative facts, fake news sites and Big Data strategies, it’s more important than ever to consider what we are allowing to affect our worldview. …

Get Off The Couch

I’ve been reading, watching, and contemplating world events – especially those most recent in the U.S. – seeking insight into the role I play in the uprising that I believe is occurring. The Women’s March inspired me in its peaceful act of rebellion. A friend of mine called it, ‘A revolution of love.’ I tend to agree. I was happy to see individuals who were willing to get off the sidelines, walking in solidarity for human rights. Though I’m not …